Thursday, 30 April 2015

Empty Nesting!


Hello everyone,

Not a particularly deep and meaningful post here.

 I am not kidding there is actually nothing deep and meaningful here but I found a couple of things just recently amusing and hope you will too.



Last week son number two and his girlfriend finalized the sale of their new home and moved out! I am not sure, should I be cheering? For them yes definitely, for us a more muted cheer. I am enjoying the peace and the tidiness and the opportunities for fun and games are definitely there...

 If either of us had the energy! We are more like this at the moment.




 To be honest the whole thing has been blinking hard work and we are now redecorating here , to make a special place for son, dil and the forthcoming grandbaby to come to as they live away from us.

On moving day we were obviously roped into service :(

My first job was to unpack the kitchen stuff!! Omg how much stuff do they think they need. Seriously they have more than me and I have been married thirty odd years! I dutifully put everything where instructed,, I am determined not to interfere or say the wrong thing. I really want my dils to like me....

Son wandered in as I was putting a collection of wooden spoons away....

"Blimey," I said "you have a lot of these!"

"You can never have too many wooden spoons" he replied.
"They have a lot of uses...."

I moved swiftly on, giggling like a schoolgirl as he wandered off again.

Later on in the day and I was in their bedroom. Okay I know it was stupid but I was making their bed up so they didn't have to do it later and I offered to unpack clothes and hang them in the wardrobes to clear the space. I was thinking I was out of the way, doing something useful. Everyone was happy :)

A big box of shoes, two suitcases full of clothes later and with only a couple of boxes to go, it was her turn to wander in.

" Erm, there's a box or case or something, I can't remember what I packed it in  but......" she trailed off.

Now I am not slow on the uptake so I stopped immediately.

"Shall I leave the rest, is it private? I am fairly broadminded but I can stop now if you like.."
My turn to trail off

"Well it's just some things you don't ought to see maybe.."

"Clothes, toys? How about if I catch sight of anything risky I close the box again. Will that do?"

"yes. lovely it's just, you know, fifty shades clothes sort of stuff......", she sighed, relieved.

I just smiled and said, "Trust me I will not be shocked, you should see my toy box, no problems"

We both had a smirk and off she went.

 And when I came across it, her risky stuff is positively vanilla. They have  lot to discover and hopefully a long time to discover it in. Bless!!
I hope I am making an okay job of this mother in lawing. So far it seems okay!!


I am hoping that when the time comes it is this dil to be who discovers our toys, maybe she will remember this conversation and be tolerant!! Is it only me who worries about this? What if we were to suddenly die and the kids had to sort everything out. I am mortified to think of the boys going through this stuff!!

They are settled in now and the house looks lovely



                                                    with it's two love birds in occupation.


Not much spanking action here to report , just a because we could, 'cos no one was here! There is a threat of one looming for biscuit eating though and I have a feeling that I better not buy any more baby clothes for a couple of weeks. :((.

I hope you are all having a good week,

Love   Jan,xx




38 comments:

  1. LOLOL Jan!! :) I have only about 30 minutes to do a tiny bit of catching up, and your post was the first I read. Thank you for the morning cheer! Wonderful post!

    I think you sound like a wonderful MIL!! Just saying. You handled the unpacking in a great way- and made your future DIL feel at ease too I bet. I am sure that she must have been pretty uncomfortable in her head about it all. Sounds like your words were just what she needed to hear. :) It also cracked me up about your son and the wooden spoons!

    Get some rest! You will get your energy back soon- or I bet that hubby will first! Enjoy your empty nest! I LOVE my kids, but I cannot wait for Rob and Katie time! And I think that that is perfectly A-O-K!! ;) Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie, Thank you for your kind words! The empty nest is nice and tidy. Hubby is at this moment continuing to decorate the now spare room, I am looking forward to getting it all done. I had a busy week dancing too so just feel really jaded today. Hope you are okay
      love Jan,xx

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  2. Loved reading this post, so filled with love. Best to you and your hubby in your "empty nest."

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    1. Hi Sunny, thank you, I think we will be staying put in our nest, we are not brave intrepid travellers like you and Ray
      love Jan,xx

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  3. Ah Jan,

    Your post had me smiling all the way through. You will make a lovely MIL and a wonderful grandmother (or whatever he/she will call you:))

    Enjoy your empty nest.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Hi Ronnie, I would like to be grandma but the kids are not so keen . I will just have to wait and see what she says! There are lots of opportunities for fun, I just wish I wasn't so cream crackered!
      love Jan,xx

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  4. Jan,
    I love the way you are so loving around your dils. As they become more comfortable, who knows......... maybe you will loan out some of those spoons. I really hate wooden spoons!
    Meredith

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    1. Hi Meredith, they are nice girls, was lucky. it would have been awful if I hadn't liked them, years of pretending would have been hard!!
      love Jan,xx

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  5. Smiling at your empty nest. My nest is bursting to the seams with toys, but none of them FSOG type :). Your DiL must be relieved to have you as a MiL.
    Now don't get carried away with clothes. My first didn't fit a thing I'd bought for her - she needed tiny baby, then my next jumped from newborn to 0-3 mths in the space of a couple of weeks!
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Hi DF, oh I remember those days, oceans of lego and action men everywhere!! I have bought summer things in 0-3 months and winter things in 3-6 months. I think she will be early so we are not expecting a whopper. When son number 2 was born he was 9lb 9oz and he didn't fit in anything first size!!
      love Jan,xx

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  6. What a lovely post to read...sounds like you are doing a great job of mother in lawing....i know i am more......cautious..or...careful around my dil...altho she is wonderful....and so far we are doing great. Enjoy that empty nest.....soon you will be having sleepovers with for grands....
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby, I am trying, I think before I say anything and pretty much go along with whatever they all want. I am so looking forward to sleepovers
      love Jan,xx

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  7. you are a wonderful Mother In Law :-) lovely post Hugs

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    1. Hi Terps, I don't know if they would agree but I am harmless at least and so they will put up with me, lol
      love Jan,xx

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  8. I think it's trickier to be a MIL to girls, sounds like you're doing a great job. I worry about our toy box too! I can't imagine what our girls would think if they came across it. We keep it well hidden when they visit.

    Love, Rosie xx

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    1. Hi Rosie, nice story over at PK's this morning. We have a locked leather chest in our bedroom, I would like someone to simply throw it away without opening it when we go!
      love Jan,xx!

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  9. Lolol Jan, I loved this post! You're such a sweetie to your dils. The whole "vanilla " toy box cracked me up. I can't even think of my kids finding our stuff - and most of it is relatively tame! Lol

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    1. Hi Maggie, oh bless they are so innocent. I think they would be stunned if they could see our stuff. I hope you are alright I just read your post, feel for you
      love Jan,xx

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  10. Jan,

    I adored your post and even laughed when I came to the part "What if we were to suddenly die (and they found the stuff)"...I have thought of my own things/toys and wondered how to prevent such a thing form happening. Just thinking about it mortifies me.

    Hugs,
    Kathy

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    1. Hi Kathy, I know, it doesn't bear thinking about. We live a couple of hours away from Ami, I thought about leaving her my toy box, Dan might like that wooden paddle!! At least if we are dead the kids can't tell us off!!
      love Jan,xx

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  11. Jan,
    I was just thinking about Gabe's third drawer and all his implements and what would happen if someone found them after we died! I guess we won't care by that time, but thinking about it really freaks me out too!

    You sound like you are doing a good job in the MIL role, trying to respect their relationship and being loving. I'm sure you will continue to do well and that she will grow to love and appreciate you!
    Megan

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    1. Hi Megan, I do think about it sometimes but like you say if we are gone well....
      Time will tell on the mil front, just plod on I suppose and hope for the best
      love Jan,xx

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  12. Hi Jan, I hope so much that you can enjoy your new opportunities soon, and big hugs for you because of the empty nest. After redecorating and helping on moving day I can understand so well that you need to get some rest first of all.
    I am so sure that your son knows something about the things you do. He seems to be an expert on wooden spoons and hints so nicely into other directions than cooking, doesn't he? I think I can understand that your dil to be is nervous about the bedroom toys, but if anything she surely loves you and appreciates to have you as her future mother in law. I just know that you’ll be the most awesome mother in law for her.
    Uh oh, the biscuit business sounds not so nice, but your husband will hopefully be a little bit more lenient about the baby clothes, after all they are really important. And sooo cute. :)
    I hope your dil and the grandbaby are ok too, so that the worries can become less. I am thinking of you and them, and want them so much to be fine.
    Wishing you a wonderful weekend and lots of good quality time. Imagine the possibilities!

    hugs and love

    Nina

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    1. Hi darling girl, I thought I would be more upset about them going but I think because the house is lovely and they are so happy it seems okay. Plus they are only a few minutes walk away! I laughed to myself when I saw their bits and pieces, pretty vanilla compared to mine! If they only knew. I think he is going to let me off the biscuits I am physically struggling this week, spanking is off the menu for a few days at least. The baby things he likes as much as me secretly, I am so looking forward for her arrival. Hope you three have a good weekend, hugs to Tilda
      love Jan,xx

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  13. Jan,
    Enjoy being an empty nester; breath in, relax, re-energise and have some time for yourselves. Your lovely post almost completely described moving our daughter out to her new home a couple of years ago; since then....bliss

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    1. Hi Don, I wonder if I should feel guilty and then I think No, it's lovely :)
      A bit of decorating and then the summer ahead to enjoy it
      love Jan,xx

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  14. This is so cute, but I have to say, if my mother-in-law saw anything of mine, I would die. I may not be as close to her as you two are...or it could be that she is super conservative and has compared BDSM to abuse. Lol, I always thought about the "what if I die and people see....," and I should really burn my journals while I still have the chance and am thinking about it...

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    1. Hi Autumn, Oh dear, I think whatever my lot were in to I would try and accept it, at least on the outside. I would never openly criticize them. I must admit the after we have gone thing must worry us all. Still you are young yet, who knows you might have real life friends who you could trust to deal with it all by then!
      love Jan,xx

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  15. Oh this sounds so wonderful! I think your son's comment indicates he uses the spoons for more than cooking!
    You are a wonderful MIL! I hope when the time comes I am as well!
    Now I worry about my Scotsman's underwear drawer! Sheesh they'd find spoons a plexi cutting board, a slapper paddle, a wooden one, a hairbrush......we mostly use his hand! LOL
    Oh and strewn under the bed are drawings!!! I better figure out something!

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    1. Hi Minelle, I sometimes think we should have stuck to using "ordinary" things like a hairbrush and a belt. Seriously there is disguising a spreader bar and leather cuffs is there, nor a leather paddle, wooden paddle etc etc....
      The one thing you shouldn't worry about is your drawings, they should be on the wall!
      love Jan,xx

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  16. You are doing great as a MIL Jan. You were understanding with your DIL and put her at ease. Had dinner the other night with my youngest son and DIL...ended up in some serious conversation. To lighten things up, and semi serious, I told them I now knew what to get them for their anniversary...a paddle. ;) Also told them that if anything happened to me, there were folders on my computer they just needed to delete without looking at plus a few other instructions. Can trust my youngest not to be nosy. Bet you could trust this DIL to follow instructions without being nosy.

    Hugs and blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Hi Cat, Oh buy them a paddle and then tell us all what they say! I have bought spoons for both of mine at times but for the kitchen. You are right I think this dil would be the one to give instructions too, my boys would not want to know but she would just deal with it all I think. She would be more understanding than the other one, she is definitely an innocent!
      love Jan,xx

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  17. Sounds like you have a wonderful DIL! I think all we spankos need to stick a note in with our toys simply stating that this was just a fun, exciting way to connect with the one we loved the most - certainly no abuse, but that it was for our mutual enjoyment. I think that would help in case of both participants going unexpectedly at the same time.

    Nick and I enjoy our empty nest very much. Mollie will be living here this summer. Not sure how that will go. I would love to have her live reasonable close - but not HERE!

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    1. Hi PK, I was thinking of writing a letter or something and leaving it with the toys, just telling them what fun we had!! I hope you do have fun with Mollie but I also hope she gets a job soon too, Hope all is well with Nick
      love Jan,xx

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  18. Loved reading this Jan, this made me smile. Your son and the wooden spoons made me giggle. I think you are a lovely Mil :) I love how you handled the conversation with your Dil and how you put her at ease.

    Enjoy your empty nest :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. HI Roz, they are very happy, I have just been for a quick visit as dil is on her own today, she is very sweet, enjoying being a housewife!
      love Jan,xx

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  19. How funny! Jan, you handled the situation beautifully! You're going to be a wonderful m-i-l!

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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