Monday, 15 June 2015

Comfort comes in many forms...


Hello everyone,

Lately life has been busy, overwhelmingly busy and I have found myself thinking about and needing comfort more and more. Perhaps it is my age, or I am getting wussier!

I find myself becoming clingier and more needy than ever. There is nothing really wrong over here. I simply think we have been too busy to focus on each other and I am missing the attention. I know, I know , what am I ? Five or something. I have turned into this pathetic female, always wanting.


We are on the last stretch of redecorating, our home looks lovely ( well to us anyway) and my husband has done a wonderful job (bearing in mind my tendency to boss from the sidelines on something I know very little about :).

I have been working a temporary job for the last couple of months and with caring for the oldies I have quite frankly struggled.
On the plus side my husband is pleased with me, he says after the last spanking for interference I have managed to control myself and have been a good girl. If he knew how much  that phrase made me want to be good for him he would say it every day I am sure, lol.

Today we are having a day together and my heart feels lighter somehow. I was talking to John over the weekend about how I feel and decided to put my needs in pictures! This life is not always about spanking ( although unsurprisingly I can't go long without some sort of attention to my behind).

My comfort comes in many forms...........




A simple touch always helps




Sometimes we spoon this way..


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and sometimes like this......




Often there is dancing ;)




When I know I have been good and he knows it too, well is there anything better?




I can't help it but comfort comes in this form too :)


This morning I had a lovely start to the day as hubby said this




Yay!!
( and very yummy it was too, stripes and all :)





 A touch, a cuddle,  a look,  a spanking, a chat, a bit of undivided attention, all of these and more do it for me. What about you? Where do you find your comfort?


Other News!!


Son and Daughter in law have made it to thirty weeks now. However dil is very poorly, the drugs ( at least we hope it is the drugs have affected her liver on top of everything else. She is at great risk now and is having to give up work  partly due to the many hospital appointments she has to have.

 Grandbaby is fine  :),

 Son is frantic :(

 Dil is amazingly stoic. I wish it was over and everyone was safe.. 



As a final note I wish to announce that I haven't eaten a biscuit, cookie, piece of cake for three weeks!!!! This is an amazing feat in this house I can tell you and has nearly killed me, lol.
Just saying.............

Hope you are all well and happy and enjoying ttwd


love 
      Jan,xx

28 comments:

  1. Jan,
    Thank you for a very uplifting post. What you described in feeling is a lot of what is happening here with Jack and me. Jack calls it peace in the valley. Ha! Congratulations about the lack of biscuit munching.
    Good to hear from you.
    Meredith

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    1. Hi Meredith, I have started going to slimming world with my youngest's girlfriend, it's weigh in day today :( . Glad things are so peaceful in your valley!
      love Jan,xx

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  2. Good to hear from you. Sending lots of positive thoughts for your DiL and son, it's very stressful when pregnancy don't go according to plan. I had to give up work at 25 weeks and sit in a chair for the rest of the pregnancy. Not quite what I thought I'd be doing. But we all turned out fine.
    Congrats on the house and cake - I'm lagging behind you. I can't manage a day!
    Yes, we all need those needy times.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Hi DF, I must admit I am spending a fair amount of time worrying about dil but hopefully it will be over soon enough. I cannot believe I have managed to avoid the biscuit tin, I daren't have one or it would start an aavalanche!
      love Jan,xx

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  3. Hi Jan, I am sorry that John did not always have as much time as you would have wanted lately, but I am happy for you because he is there for you now again, when you need him for comfort. After all, you have been pretty busy lately, so it is just clear that you have to have some quality time (too busy times are stupid, hubby and I have that here too at the moment). Hearing ‘ good girl’ works wonders with me too. :) I love that your husband says that. Wonderful! I loved the pictures showing some of the good things that happen between you and your husband, especially the cute spooning pictures. I am so happy for you having all these wonderful things (and I am little envious because of the good girl spankings :) ). You are so right, being touched, feeling that hubby is there, talking and just being with him is what makes a day so much better and I for one do feel the same as you, when this is missing for too long.
    Oh my, I am glad that your dil and grandbaby have made it to week thirty by now, but I am so sorry about the problems she has. I was always afraid of anything happening before week 27, because the doctors said that chances for Tilda would be good once week 27 was reached. So, week 30 is awesome because grandbaby will be fine for sure. I hope this so much, just like I hope your dil has a real chance to take care of herself. Those appointments are annoying but definitely important. When you wrote in an earlier post that they are not really considerate at your dil’s job I hoped she could stop working there. So, I’d say stopping working was maybe the right decision for several reasons. I really hope that all will be well for mommy and baby!!
    Woohoo, three weeks without! This is cool, congratulations! … I absolutely know how hard this is (especially at the moment. I could eat all the time). You are great because you managed three weeks … and counting! Oh, and that means that you could reward yourself with buying a few tiny cute baby clothes again, doesn’t it? They are calorie free, after all. :) Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts to you and yours.

    hugs and love

    Nina

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    1. Hi Nina, I love your comments, you are the nicest girl! You can eat my share of the biscuits at the moment, your need is greater! Dil is strong, she is taking it all in her stride whilst all of us are anxious. I think baby would be okay now and the scans show her to be fine. John and I are great really, just busy. Back to normal shortly I hope. I hope you are doing well, and Tilda is fine and happy. I am sure she will be a beautiful big sister :)
      love Jan,xx

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  4. Good for you on the not eating all those things. Secondly, sorry about your DIL, but glad baby is okay - at least the home stretch is in site. Home decorating always made me feel better and glad you got in some you time this am.

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    1. Hi Sunny, I wish I could say the biscuit thing will last but I very much doubt it :( I lack willpower. I will be glad when baby is here. Wishing you , PK and Katie a fabulous holiday, look forward to hearing about it
      love Jan,xx

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  5. Hi Jan,

    I can sympathise with you, life is busy in this neck of the woods too, less time for the extra closeness that comes with ttwd. That's why we get clingy I think, we miss that togetherness when life gets in the way. I get my comfort in much the same ways as you do and, yes, spanking is high on the list!

    It's good to hear grand baby is fine, not so good for your poor DIL.

    Congrats on staying away from the bikkies. I saw in a couple of comments that you were going to Slimming World but didn't like it much. It seems to be doing the trick anyway.

    Let's hope life gets less busy soon.

    Love, Rosie xx

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    1. Hi Rosie, I am definitely more clingy since we started ttwd, who would have known? I started going to slimming world with my youngest's girlfriend, she has been struggling and I went with her for moral support. I hate the bit when the consultant asks you what you want to lose next week!! Makes me cringe ans I feel like I am setting myself up to fail. We often skip class because of it, but we are sticking to the plan. Early days yet though
      Hope you are well
      love Jan,xx

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  6. WOW...congrats on the absence of biscuit and cookies...same here, but i have moved on to ice cream lol. Yeah for 30 weeks, the payoff is in sight. I love sitting on His lap, snuggling into his neck, bear hugs, his smile when he sees me..and yes the good girl spankings.
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby, I am not a huge fan of ice cream so that is one temptation I can manage without thank goodness! Snuggling is my favourite hobby too.
      love Jan,xx

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  7. I am happy dil is nearing the end! I know how scary it is to worry, worry!
    Yay to the no sweets! Even when I'm good I see very few results! Lol
    I was just talking to a fellow blogger about this connection you call comfort. I think what happens is that we start paying attention to each other. Our partner's comfort and happiness make us jubilant!
    It makes me smile to see these images and read your words!

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    1. Hi Minelle, I am not seeing much in the way of results either yet. How come it is so easy to put weight on and so hard to lose it :(
      I agree, I love it when we are both content and happy. Hope you and yours are okay
      love Jan,xx

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  8. Hey Jan,

    Lovely post.

    Thinking about your DIL and sending positive thoughts.

    Good for you not eating any biscuits. Keep it up. Hope you had a wonderful day yesterday.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Hi Ronnie, hope you are enjoying the tennis. Nadal is my favoutrite, yummy :) Nice day yesterday, new carpets today and then a break for a bit
      love Jan,xx

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  9. Hi Jan, goodness you have been busy! I'm glad you and John found time to reconnect and that you are almost done with the redecorating, Good on you staying away from the cookies and cake!

    Sending positive thoughts and prayers for your DIL.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz, Things are going well here really, I am glad we are almost done for a while! I must admit I am struggling with the lack of cake,lol
      love Jan,xx

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  10. What a lovely post. I am comforted by many of the same things - cuddles, hugs, holding hands, sweet words, and yes, spanking. Unfortunately there has not been any spanking here for a really long time so I have to ignore some of my neediness which is calling out and accept the hugs and hand holding until the day comes when we connect again more intimately. In its place I am eating all the cookies and cake you have not been eating the last few weeks.
    :-) Sending healing for your DIL and support for your son and sweet love for the baby :-) Hugs

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    1. Hi Terps, When I get desperate, I just ask for a spanking. I don't care how I get it as long as I get it!! You keep eating the cakes, save me doing it ;)
      Thanks for your good wishes, not long to go now
      love Jan,xx

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  11. Congrats on the no biscuits or cakes! I'm doing Weight Watchers over here...some weeks are good...last week, not so much! Keep up with thee good work! I will add your son & dil to my prayers. And I feel us with the neediness, sometimes it catches me by surprise!

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    1. Hi Maggie, Over here weight watchers is harder to do than slimming world I think. It's such a struggle though and sometimes you just think have I got to diet for ever!! I think hubby is getting used to my clinginess now. lol
      love Jan,xx

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  12. Hi Jan, :) I loved your post, as well as hearing from you too. You know, I love all those things too- the cuddles and hugs, and sitting on Rob's lap. I think it is a good thing to feel needy. That means that our hearts are in the right place I have concluded. It is the opposite of being worlds apart. I'll take it! :)

    I have your son and DIL and baby in my prayers. 30 weeks and they are on the home stretch!

    Glad to hear about your redecorating! Enjoy! And no biscuits, cakes and all- WHOA!!! Good for you! :) Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie, I hope things are well with you Hope your mum is doing okay at the moment. I think hubby doesn't mind my neediness, like you say it does focus us on each other. Thanks for the prayers and as for the no biscuits, gosh that's hard :(
      love Jan,xx

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  13. I am just getting back into the swing of things which includes a back load of catching up on blog reading. I love the pictures yo shared of the many ways to connect. I love the hand holding, the snuggles and yes... the spankings when necessary both good girl and bad girl ones, it shows me the big guy is paying attention. It sounds like your grand baby is on the downhill stretch and I hope things settle down and the remainder goes well. It is an exciting time for all and I know everyone will be so happy when the end is here. Decorating can be so much work but in the end it is a great sense of accomplishment. It is fun to see the changes and gain a new perspective. Good work for sticking to your weight loss goals. Not always easy but well worth it in the end.

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    1. Hi Annabelle, Glad you are okay, you have plenty to catch up on in Blogland. This week has been a bad one for the dil so we are so hoping it is all over soon:(.
      love Jan,xx

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  14. Hey Jan...thank you for the updates...I do understand a crazy busy life...same here. Do not put yourself down for the wanting hugs, cuddles and attention...we all need those at times...I really miss them.

    Happy your grandbaby has reached 30 weeks...am sending lots of prayers and healing energy for your DIL and grandbaby.

    Congratulations on not eating sweets for 3 weeks..you are doing so good! Sending lots of positive energy your way.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Hi Cat, I hope things are getting sorted for you now, I also hope that one day soon you find someone new to share those attention seeking moments with.
      Dil has had a bad week, but this weekend they are pram shopping, I have a feeling there will not be as long to go as we thought. All prayers are gratefully received.:)
      love Jan,xx
      P.S. still off the biscuits, yay..

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