Saturday, 22 August 2015

Being good is not always a Good Thing!



Hello everyone,

I haven't got anything exciting to write about ( so if you want to tootle off feel free, there will be no offence taken here as I am currently boring myself let alone my friends).

We have been ttwding for almost three years, married for thirty three and happy all of them. But oh my goodness I wish I was  naturally naughty.

I am open to any and all suggestions because the longer we go on the more I find myself just, well, behaving,  See I told you this was boring. At this point I fear I may come across as smug but please don't think that is how I am feeling. I am feeling meh...

 I am actually feeling as though I am letting the side down somewhat amongst all my ttwd friends. I read your exploits and think

"Bloody Hell I am  not partaking of this life at all!! " I think how brave you are when you are spanked for smartmouthing! Then I think

"But I don't want to!!" See  useless.:(


We don't row, I am not rude to him, I love doing things for him ( and he is always doing stuff for me).

What the heck is going on?  Don't get me wrong, he still spanks but it is always for fun! ( lots of fun sometimes but am I just greedy because I want more ( just a teeny bit more please...))

 Before all of you sassy wives tell me that this is a good thing

 I KNOW .

 Somehow though a bit of naughtiness makes it all a bit more.....everything.
He often says he wishes I would be naughty so he had reasons to spank, seriously though what would I do? Well so do I, but I am at a loss. I can't be naughty on purpose and even if I were to try I haven't the first idea where to start.  See I am no good at this stuff, I am just me.

I don't fancy getting a speeding ticket, rule breaker I am not. ( I thought about lying to him and then thought instantly I can't lie to him!!!)lol

He works hard, is always respectful to me so how can I not return the favour?

I love keeping house, no problems there.




On the plus side I guess this means that ttwd works. Yay!!

I really need a blip :(   Oh gosh that sounds bad.... actually that is bad.

I have no ideas really on how to spice it up a bit. He is definitely not into role play, (mind you I would give it a go)

Of course, as I am writing this post there is an old saying running through my head




Hopefully now I have written about my patheticness ( I know, but for the life of me I couldn't think of the word I needed, so I made one up) something will happen and I will finally have something to entertain you with instead of whinging on about my boringness ( I know, same thing.) For goodness sake all the books I read you would think my vocabulary would be a bit broader by now. I am into historical spanking right now, a bit obsessed as there has been a run of new ones come out. Have you read the latest Jaye Peaches, or Ashe Barker and ooh what about the series by Golden Angel? All very yummy.... But I digress.




Does this happen to everyone? I know a lot of you have been at this a heck of a lot longer than us and are better at it too.

Is it just that we are getting on a bit?

I have a feeling the underlying things are that after all this time we have total trust and respect for each other. Our love is rock solid, that I am sure of, and we would do anything for each other and our family. There are no secrets between us, I can and do tell him anything and everything.
 Is that perhaps why I find it hard to be naughty? or maybe it is just that I am as ordinary and boring as I secretly think :((( What a depressing thought...

I hope you are all having a great weekend, and a spankfree or spankfilled week according to your heart's desire!
love Jan,xx

37 comments:

  1. Hey there, Little English Rose,

    You need to sully yourself up a bit. Leave a pack of cigarettes on the seat of the car. That will usually get his attention. Leave dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Mess with things on his desk or leave dishes in the sink.
    Spend too much on some outfit. Say the F word once or twice.

    Easiest of all - go somewhere and don't tell him where you are. Don't answer the phone. When you finally return and he asks about it all, just blow him off like he is being a pain in the ass.

    You can do this, Little Rose! I want to hear a better report on this situation by next weekend.

    Hugs Across the Pond,
    Ella

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    1. Omg Ella, You are such a bad influence. I absolutely can't do much of that!! I am giggling so hard at the thought of it, I bet you don't do any of those things either!! This must be one of the naughtiest comments I have ever had,lol
      love Jan,xx

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  2. lol...at Ella's response. I was thinking more along the lines of....buy a new toy..or get out your favorite one...wrap and leave on the bed with a gift tag.....when He is sitting, lay across His lap...no undies,,,and wriggle for all your worth. Place a bet on something, one you know you can win...pay up is a spanking of your choice.......
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby, I can't believe what Ella told me to do, she deserves a spanking for incitement,lol
      You sound like you are experienced in this lark, hmm
      love Jan,xx

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  3. Hi Jan, oh no, tootle off?! Never ever; first of all, there could always be grandbaby news! Second, telling that all is good is actually so wonderful news that I love to have these (especially at the moment bc of granny). And third, but most important (((hugs)))! I am sorry that you feel meh at the moment. I think you shouldn’t feel bad because you are behaving and being good. But I do see the catch. Uhm, maybe you could get this extra spanking for being good? For more fun, I mean?
    However, if you need someone to help you be naughty, try Ella’s idea about the phone. I only know that this is a sure bet to end up in real trouble. Hubby would be in sorrow (which is why I wouldn’t do it), and even without being spanked this year, I know I’d be very sorry.
    Anyways, what I really want to say is that there is nothing !!! boring about what you write or do. Family life is exciting, and that you and your hubby are so much in tune is sooo wonderful. I love that you have that and reading this makes my day so much better. Just saying.

    Ok, let’s digress a moment. I am currently reading Jaye’s latest book (which is awesome, just saying), and have Ashe Barker’s on my TBR list. I have not read any by Golden Angel yet, but it seems I should.

    Oh, but if you really want to be a little bit naughty … biscuits?! However, I wouldn’t want to see you in trouble, so I am just teasing and hope you do n o t eat them. Yummy. :) I am so happy for you having all the wonderful good between you and your husband. That’s not depressing, instead it makes me smile. However, you could maybe communicate again and again, even if it is not about a role play. Wishing you and yours a wonderful weekend, with only the spankings you’d enjoy and want to have.

    hugs and love

    Nina

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    1. Oh Nina, I do love you, you are the sweetest person. The biscuits!!! Now that is the best idea so far . These comments are making me laugh so much, just what I needed. Baby is great. Next weekend they are coming to stay with us for four days, I am very excited. We get new pics every day and I speak to son or dil every afternoon for a catch up. She is so lovely, very tiny and perfect. We have been comparing baby pics and she looks just like our son, with a little bit of added dark hair!
      I hope your pregnancy is going well, and much love to Tilda
      love Jan,xx

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  4. Oh, I like the bet idea! We only spank for fun, sometimes I wish it were different. Other times I am glad it is not. But we always joke that if anyone really needed a spanking around here it's probably my husband!
    We are the same, always nice and respectful to each other (well not always, but you know, mostly). Sometimes I do wish I could get a real "bad girl" spanking. They are exciting in books!
    But if even your husband says he is wishing for it, why not just something silly? "Do you want this last cookie? Oh you do? Sorry, ate it already- you snooze you lose." LOL Seriously, just something silly, don't go getting yourself in any real trouble!

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    1. Hi Casey, I must admit I like the bet idea. I know we are lucky to have the marriage we have, I think I have read too many books, I am sure I wouldn't like it any other way in reality!! Oh gosh now I am being contrary!
      More biscuits. Everyone in Blogland knows my penchant for the scrumptious little things!!;) Btw I am sure Mr McKay is a perfect saint
      love Jan,xx

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  5. Jan,
    So funny and I have no advice! I much prefer a gg spanking so I am all for that. Jack will have peace and it sounds like your hubby is enjoying his peace as well. Relax.......... gg spankings are by far the best!
    Meredith

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    1. Hi Meredith, I know , just sometimes I wish I was a bit more of a trial and he was a bit more bothered by my behaviour. Sigh, put it down to the menopause.....
      love Jan,xx

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  6. Oh heck, we may be the same person! When I read Ella's comment, "You need to sully yourself up a bit. Leave a pack of cigarettes on the seat of the car. That will usually get his attention. Leave dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Mess with things on his desk or leave dishes in the sink. Spend too much on some outfit. Say the F word once or twice." I was thinking, hell except for the cigarette pack I do all that normally and Nick never bats an eye!

    Like you I'm not a rule breaker and lead a fairly calm polite existence. Nick and I never fight - never have. But then, what's a spanko to do. We have tried a list lately. I got the idea from Katie. He tells me what to put on the list and I put it on my phone - then once a week or so we clear it off. For example the other night he told me to turn on the dishwasher before coming to bed. I forgot. Next morning he just grinned and said, 'Put it on the list.' It's mostly silly stuff but it gives us a 'reason'.

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    1. Hi Pk, You can't do all those things!! Oh crikey I have the giggles again. I have never smoked so that is definitely out. I was thinking if I did the rest he would think I was poorly and offer to help me with the chores,. I might have to mention your list in passing, I reckon I will have to write the blooming thing myself though,lol
      Hope school is going okay for both you and Mollie
      love Jan,xx

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  7. You make me smile! Why not get all dressed up and role play.... Even if it is one sided! He doesn't need to know!
    I am often cheeky and get annoyed at silly things.... Move heavy things too often.... Try some of those things
    If the role playing fails!

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    1. Hi Minelle, I might just try that, even if he will think I am having a senior moment!
      love Jan,xx

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  8. LOL Jan...you and Ella make me laugh...I really can't see you being so naughty. I can see you indulging in a few biscuits...I have a lovely recipe for soft ginger cookies on my blog...aren't took loaded with sugar. Oh and once place I got myself into trouble with Matthew and still do with myself...overspending on the grands. ;)

    Enjoy those fun spankings...buy a new adult toy and put it on hubby's side of bed...am sure you will enjoy. ;)

    If you really do need some naughty ideas, email me. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Hi Cat, oh you are going to be as bad an influence as Ella, I wish you both lived near enough to really get into trouble with ;).
      That's the thing though, you are right I am not the naughty sort, I like being good :(( He is as bad as me on spending on the grandgirl!! She's coming to stay next weekend with son and dil, I am looking forward to that,might have to do my trouble making before they arrive.
      love Jan,xx

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  9. You could try having him hold you accountable for some goal in an area you want to improve or stretch yourself in (which usually means you fail some as you go along) if there is one, or just experiment with a little broader D/s stuff.

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    1. Hi there, we do do that with the whole food thing, mind you he feels bad spanking me for eating the wrong stuff when he does it too!! lol I regularly fail in the food department. As to the D/s stuff that's worth a go. Thanks for the advice
      love Jan,xx

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  10. LoL Jan, this made me smile and I love the comments, especially Ella's suggestions lol. You are never boring. I love the fun you and John have with ttwd and always enjoy reading here :)

    I think this shows what a great place you two are in and that's awesome. I do understand needing more though. Be careful what you wish for! I can't really see you being naughty either.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I always thought Ella was a good girl until I read this!!
      I told my hubby about this post and I am not kidding you ten minutes later i broke a plate in the washing up and he marched me upstairs laughing!! I have a slipper mark on my leg cos I moved :(( lol
      love Jan,xx

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  11. Jan you are definitely not patheticness or boringness. You are perfect the way you are and enjoy the gg spankings. I'm similar to you and don't usually be naughty until this weekend when I ended up with my first punishment. I'm telling you it was not fun at all. Much prefer the spanking where we end up giggling together.
    This just shows that TTWD is working for you and you both respect each other. Isn't that the whole idea.

    Enjoy your weekend with your new grandbaby, how exciting.
    Lindy x

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    1. Hi Lindy, ooh not to be a voyeur or anything but I hope you are going to tell all on your blog, just saying.... See my comment to Roz, I have a feeling today is going to be plenty of fun!!
      love Jan,xx
      P.S. hope you are sitting comfortably now.x

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  12. Jan, I love visiting here - spanking or not spanking. We're friends and I just like stopping by to catch up.

    We have only had 'fun' spankings and those are far and few between anymore. Unfortunately, I think like with everything else, it gets swept up in everyday life.

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    1. Hi Sunny,back at you. Life is a pain , interfering with our spanking hobbies. How rude!! Maybe you ought to follow Ella's advice as well;)
      love Jan,xx

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  13. I'm not naughty enough either, although over this past week I have been very snappy to P. It's been a while... so I'm planning on scattering the remote controls around the sofa. P hates that, as he might sit on one ;-)
    Thank you very much for the Sophia shout out. I'm glad you're enjoying it. I can recommend Maggie Carpenter's historical bestseller too. I always like her books.
    hugs DF

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    1. Hi DF. Pleasure, it's a great book. I have read lots of hers, I'll get that one next. Oh to be in trouble, how naughty we all are for just wanting to be!!
      Hope you are surviving the school holidays, not long to go now!
      love Jan,xx

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  14. Try just not putting the top on a bottle or jar properly so when he picks it up he spills it, works every time. Now I just need cure myself of this bad habit or decided sitting on a cushion is a permanent part of my life.

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    1. Oh bless, well cushions are quite comfy!! ;)
      love Jan,xx

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  15. Jan,

    Ella's comment made me laugh so much.

    A lot of us would like more punishment spanking but it's hard to make that happen naturally. You wouldn't want to do anything that really upsets hubby.

    You know him well so what pushes his button something that he absolutely would hate you doing. Something he's told you not to do.

    Enjoy time with your little grandbaby.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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  16. Hi Ronnie, I know nice little Ella has certainly surprised us all! Not going to believe she's as innocent as she makes out now are we? ;)
    I think I will have to try a bit harder this week to annoy him!
    love Jan,xx

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  17. But you are right! Surely the whole point of this thing is that it enriches our relationships and helps with things like attitude? So if you are coasting along and being good - enjoy it! Sometimes all we do is have happy spanks or good girl spanks or whatever you want to call them. I love it! Every single minute of it! So in my book, what you are doing is just great.

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. hi Ami, Aw how nice of you. I guess everything is going well really. I hope everything is good with Dan.
      love Jan,xx

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  18. I really wanted to ask some questions about England but I can't find your email address. Mine is blonde2563@gmail.com

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    1. Hi Blondie, I have emailed you, ask away!
      love Jan,xx

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  19. Dear Rose, I loved this post, and all the comments! There's nothing boring about you, and I find it wonderful that you've had and are having such a good time with your darling husband. Mine finds me too well-behaved to punish me much, too, and I can relate to not wanting to really upset him.
    But if I were to dig out a board game nowadays, let my competitive streak come through, totally defeat him, and then gloat, he just might like to retaliate on my backside.
    Oooh. Boardgames, winning, AND a spanking? Gotta try that out!!! :)

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