Sunday, 25 October 2015

Corner Time Anyone?



 


Hello my friends,

My posts are generally fluffy or whiny, presumably because  that is my general make up, lol.
Today I am writing about an actual subject that appears in our lifestyle. Okay it only happens to a few of us and often not very frequently but still....


A couple of days ago one of my lovely blogger friends emailed me with a dilemma. Her and her husband lead a similar lifestyle to my husband and myself, so mostly fun and games with the odd bit of punishment creeping in.
For some reason her husband planned a reset for later that day and told her to be in the corner waiting when he got home. This had not happened to her before and I believe she instinctively refused as she didn't feel this was something she could do. Then in her misguided innocence she turned to me for advice.
At this point I need to say I am sorry because I didn't get the email until AFTER the event so was no help at all.  I was otherwise occupied all day and when I read the message and started frantically typing I realized she was probably mid -spanking.

Yes,my friends, a word of advice don't ask me as I will probably be off gallivanting.

My dear friend wanted to know what I would have done and how did I deal with corner time.
I think we all deal with this differently , I actually like it!!

Yes I know, I never claimed to be normal but I  find it helps me sink into a submissive head space.
I love how he is in charge, I love to be ordered how to stand and know that he is keeping an eye on me, He never makes me stand there for long though and I am sometimes clothed, sometimes not. For me up till now it has always been before a spanking and not after so I will admit my experiences are pretty mild. If he is really cross I do have to watch myself, no slouching or fidgeting ;)

My advice was to grin and bear it. I advised my friend to be there in the corner ready and waiting. After all it goes part way to keeping him happy and therefore avoiding a worse spanking. It is an easy thing to do to keep hubby happy, if he likes it I like it. Did I mention how simple I am?

After the event my friend emailed me to say she did do it in the end and I think I was as glad as her husband !!


 So what I would like to know is how do you all deal with the dreaded corner?

Do you love it or hate it?

Does it happen often in your house or is it a rare event?

Anyone escaped it altogether?

Any Hohs care to tell us why they like to put us there?




Okay, here comes the bit that makes you all laugh, different subject entirely.
Back to slimming world and a pound and a half loss this week. During the "chatty bit" everyone seemed to be struggling and lots of people asked for help and tips.
When it got to me I said what helped me the most was writing it all down in my book and then my mouth ran away with me...
( At this point you need to imagine the scene, a room full of chubby women, and daughter in law sat right beside me . )

"I write everything I have eaten down in a notebook " I stated , "and then when my husband gets home from work he comments on it and gives me rewards and consequences!"

Yes folks I actually said it  out loud and then to add to my  foot in mouth dil said,

"Oh yes I have seen that book, he writes things like good girl and naughty girl amongst other stuff!"

My heart actually stopped beating.... She wouldn't would she?.........

Thankfully every one laughed at this point and I nudged her in the ribs with a blushing face.
Our lovely consultant then laughingly said

"Oh gosh I don't think we better ask anymore " but she did go on to say that it was a good idea to have someone holding us accountable and she said that obviously praise is a good motivator.

I didn't mention that spanking was a better one, felt I had outed myself enough for one day!!


Hope you are all having a good week, in or out of the corner, and in or outing yourself to the world around you, lol

Lots of love
                Jan. xxxx







Monday, 19 October 2015

Wanna Meet my Husband ?


Hello my friends, Couldn't wait to do Ella's Meme about the most important person in my life.


1.Name a favourite movie of his. Do you like it too?


No I don't. He is a sci fi fan and I am not!

2.Tell us something you cook or bake that makes him happy. Do you add something that makes it special?

He loves my Shepherd's pie and my Cheese Scones. Nothing special just love added.






3. What does he wear to bed?

Nothing. Just me wrapped around him!

4. Does he have or has he ever grown a beard or moustache?

No thank goodness, I hate facial hair with a passion.Just saying...

5.If they were going to make a movie of your husband what actor would you pick to play him?



Oh gosh I love him!!( Hubby wasn't very keen on this idea btw)

6. Who is neater around the house, you or him? Then give us a sloppy example.

I am, I am a teeny bit obsessed actually. he isn't bad , he just isn't me lol

7. If you could buy him tickets to any concert (past or present) who would it be?


His very favourite band ever!

8. Does he wear a wedding ring? Do you care?

He has one but doesn't wear it often. he doesn't wear any jewellery. I don't mind, I know he is mine ;)

9. How old was he and how old were you when you met? What else do you remember about that day?

He was 28 and I was 21. We met at the place my dad worked and kept eyeing each other up until he asked me out to the pictures.... We were engaged 3 months later and married 6 months after that. Coming up to 34 years .....

10. If he was the one to choose an ethnic restaurant  for dinner out what would he choose?

He would choose Italian, probably because I like it the best ( did you know he loves me?)

11. Is there a photo of him as a child you find especially endearing?. Tell us about it?

There is a photo of him with Father Christmas aged about 4. Aw so cute :)

12. If you were going to choose a dress in a colour just to please him what colour would it be?


Easiest question in the meme! I love dresses, he loves this one. Actually I choose most of my clothes with him in my mind. I would never wear something knowing he wouldn't like it. 

13. Do you (or did you) love his mother?

I do, she is almost 90 and very frail, but has always been nice to me. When we first got engaged she said "I didn't think I was ever going to get rid of him" I think she was joking!

14.Name a famous person he really admires.

The actor Brian Blessed. Don't ask!! He doesn't do a single thing for me 




15. How does your husband take his tea or coffee?


In his " I love to spank my wife " mug of course! He prefers tea, a couple of sweeteners a dash of milk and a nip of Rum.

Does your man know how to Dance? Is it something you both enjoy?

Have a guess.  I am a dance teacher. I like dancing with him, he is kind enough to make the effort but I think he would rather do other things with me ;)



I would like to think we are like this but.....



yep, that's more like it, lol. See why I still need to go to slimming world, I am the little fat one!!

Thanks Ella, lovely meme, hope everyone else has a go too.


love
          Jan,xxxx

Sunday, 11 October 2015

The "Spank Me" Charm!



Just a quickie to make you smile....

A couple of years ago my husband bought me a necklace for my birthday.



It is silver, with a little tiny ruler and a charm that says "spank me!" on it. I love it but am very careful where and when I wear it.

I would never wear it when I am at work or out with the kids. Last weekend, we were having a day in on our own  ;) so on it went. Thought I might give hubby a hint .

Later in the day, surprise visit from son number two and dil to be  ( have I mentioned that they live a couple of minutes walk away and I am now wondering if that is a good thing, lol)

Husband and son were in the loft searching for  Christmas decorations for the kids (don't ask, they are as mad as us those two) Daughter in law and I were standing chatting at the bottom of the ladder waiting for them to pass us things.

She leaned in a bit and ....

"Does that say what I think it does?", she said all innocent like, (little mischief maker).

My hand flew up to cover it and I went bright red.

"Er, yes "

 Now I know that wasn't exactly a witty  response but was there one I could have made at that point, Seriously I still can't think of anything I could have said to make this one go away.

She giggled, I giggled and son said  " What, what does it say?"

"Don't you tell him " I hissed, "He will die of embarrassment"

"Nothing " she trilled back sweetly. Now you know and I know that she will have told him the second they left the house. Could you have kept that a secret from your beloved? Exactly....

Fast forward to yesterday and they are here again as dil and I have just dragged son to a craft fair. Have I told you how besotted he is with her?  Just as they are leaving he swats her rear end as she walks past him.

I blurted out  "That's exactly what  dad would have done!"

"Where do you think I got it from ?" he says.

"You got off lightly darling, dad would have walloped me harder than that!"

" She tells me off if it's too hard!" Now that I laughed at.

"I am used to it " I said. Seriously did I actually say that out loud! What is wrong with me?  I was having a conversation about being spanked by his dad and and none of us were batting eyelids at it.

There is no doubt in my mind that these two know exactly what we get up to and are not far off getting up to it themselves! Happy families.......


I hope you are all having a great weekend,  ours is hopefully alone!!
love
    Jan,xx