Sunday, 25 October 2015

Corner Time Anyone?



 


Hello my friends,

My posts are generally fluffy or whiny, presumably because  that is my general make up, lol.
Today I am writing about an actual subject that appears in our lifestyle. Okay it only happens to a few of us and often not very frequently but still....


A couple of days ago one of my lovely blogger friends emailed me with a dilemma. Her and her husband lead a similar lifestyle to my husband and myself, so mostly fun and games with the odd bit of punishment creeping in.
For some reason her husband planned a reset for later that day and told her to be in the corner waiting when he got home. This had not happened to her before and I believe she instinctively refused as she didn't feel this was something she could do. Then in her misguided innocence she turned to me for advice.
At this point I need to say I am sorry because I didn't get the email until AFTER the event so was no help at all.  I was otherwise occupied all day and when I read the message and started frantically typing I realized she was probably mid -spanking.

Yes,my friends, a word of advice don't ask me as I will probably be off gallivanting.

My dear friend wanted to know what I would have done and how did I deal with corner time.
I think we all deal with this differently , I actually like it!!

Yes I know, I never claimed to be normal but I  find it helps me sink into a submissive head space.
I love how he is in charge, I love to be ordered how to stand and know that he is keeping an eye on me, He never makes me stand there for long though and I am sometimes clothed, sometimes not. For me up till now it has always been before a spanking and not after so I will admit my experiences are pretty mild. If he is really cross I do have to watch myself, no slouching or fidgeting ;)

My advice was to grin and bear it. I advised my friend to be there in the corner ready and waiting. After all it goes part way to keeping him happy and therefore avoiding a worse spanking. It is an easy thing to do to keep hubby happy, if he likes it I like it. Did I mention how simple I am?

After the event my friend emailed me to say she did do it in the end and I think I was as glad as her husband !!


 So what I would like to know is how do you all deal with the dreaded corner?

Do you love it or hate it?

Does it happen often in your house or is it a rare event?

Anyone escaped it altogether?

Any Hohs care to tell us why they like to put us there?




Okay, here comes the bit that makes you all laugh, different subject entirely.
Back to slimming world and a pound and a half loss this week. During the "chatty bit" everyone seemed to be struggling and lots of people asked for help and tips.
When it got to me I said what helped me the most was writing it all down in my book and then my mouth ran away with me...
( At this point you need to imagine the scene, a room full of chubby women, and daughter in law sat right beside me . )

"I write everything I have eaten down in a notebook " I stated , "and then when my husband gets home from work he comments on it and gives me rewards and consequences!"

Yes folks I actually said it  out loud and then to add to my  foot in mouth dil said,

"Oh yes I have seen that book, he writes things like good girl and naughty girl amongst other stuff!"

My heart actually stopped beating.... She wouldn't would she?.........

Thankfully every one laughed at this point and I nudged her in the ribs with a blushing face.
Our lovely consultant then laughingly said

"Oh gosh I don't think we better ask anymore " but she did go on to say that it was a good idea to have someone holding us accountable and she said that obviously praise is a good motivator.

I didn't mention that spanking was a better one, felt I had outed myself enough for one day!!


Hope you are all having a good week, in or out of the corner, and in or outing yourself to the world around you, lol

Lots of love
                Jan. xxxx







44 comments:

  1. Oh Jan....Corner time....I have been in the corner, but usually as a break during a punishment spanking...some thinking time. The first couple times, i just stewed about the injustice, but the break is good, and i have learned to use it as a help to getting to the proper head space. I would have loved to be at that meeting with you.....but hey....you are losing...Congrats...so more may want to try it...
    hugs abby

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    1. Hi Abby, I have never been there in between implements, mind you a break is good, especially from one of your Master's spankings!
      love Jan,xx

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  2. I nearly spilled my coffee when I saw your post landing in my inbox! What I learnt from this experience is, if you write a Fantasy Friday story featuring something you don't want your husband to pick up on, don't give it to him to read!

    I laughed about the slimming club meeting, you are living dangerously!

    Lots of love, Rosie xx

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    1. Hi Rosie, I am glad you are okay with it all, I loved your story,hope you write some more. Weigh in again tomorrow, oh gosh it comes round quickly :(
      love Jan,xx

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  3. Hi Jan, corner time happens more often now than usually, because I get it as one of the main punishments until I can be spanked again. In non-pregnant times I don’t like it too much (most times), because it happens after the spanking, I am left there and usually have to think about my misbehavior and come up with a way of being better. No fidgeting then either.
    However I like it in some moments too. When hubby is close by and I know that he watches me I get a lot of warm feelings and the real punishment then is not to be allowed to be close to him. And during my pregnancies I have had the luxury version of corner time, with me sitting on a chair. Actually that has done its job too, but depending on the situation, hubby was close by, and sometimes it was rather relaxing and more like a welcome quiet time.

    LoL, oh my, Jan, I think I would have died if I had told these things to people I don’t know too well. The trouble is that telling more than intended is just what happens so easily to me, too. And then try to get out of it again!?! … :) Your dil was not too helpful there, was she; but it was too funny. And she did not say anything else, so everybody might just think that you are simply being good at doing the journal and your husband helps with it. I think it is awesome that you made another pound and a half loss this week, congratulations on that, really great.
    Wishing you a wonderful week and hope that you get some sort of additional reward for being so good with the weekly weight loss!

    hugs and love

    Nina

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    1. Hi Nina,I think with two pregnancies you are our expert on corner time out here in Blogland! I don;t think I would be allowed a chair though.
      My mouth just ran away with me last week, am hoping to keep quiet tomorrow!! Hope everything is alright with you lovey
      love Jan,xx

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  4. Hi Jan, corner time doesn't happen now but was infrequent with DD and usually before a spanking but occasionally in the middle of one. Mostly, I hated it lol, but it did help get me in the right mind set.

    Your slimming world story cracked me up, especially your dil's 'helpful' comment lol. Hope nobody asks you to elaborate! lol

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz, Somehow corner time just puts my mind in the right place, I have never had to go back in the middle though, once hubby has started spanking he carries on to the end. lol
      I am going to avoid chatting tomorrow at class that's for certain
      love Jan,xx

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  5. No corner time here. I don't think we have a corner which doesn't haven't a piece of furniture in it.
    You probably made Slimming World so much more fun with your idea!
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Hi DF, Empty one and see what happens!!
      I at least made everyone laugh , going to keep my mouth shut this week
      love Jan,xx

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  6. Hi Jan, funny enough corner time used to make me irate. We don't do it. However now I love to read about it. Not sure how I'd respond if I was told to stand in the corner.
    For some reason now I'm utterly intrigued!

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    1. Hi Minelle, I love reading about it, it's very quiet standing there thinking about what's to come, ooh the anticipation!!
      love Jan,xx

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  7. Corner time - it's one of the things that plays around in my mind and I think I would like it. At least I would like my husband taking the time to think about all TTWD could possibly accomplish if used constantly. I've never been asked to stand in the corner, but I'd do it if asked.

    Now at your next weigh in just get it over with. Stand up and say, "My name is Jan and I'm a spanko."

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    1. Hi PK, it's not very frequent here but he has read this post so I guess the idea is back in his head now ;)
      Oh my goodness I must keep my mouth shut at class this week
      love Jan,xx

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  8. Oh my, Jan! There is so much to say here. Yes, Sam does use corner time sometimes. Sometimes it has been before, sometimes in the middle, and sometimes when the spanking is done.

    There are also certain offenses that do not result in a spanking at all. Just corner time. I do absolutely hate it, but it usually calms any temper down and I am ready to talk about how I screwed up on something. For some reason the "control" component to our ttwd relationship is strengthened by this particular penalty. Sam never uses it for fun. He is always dead serious.

    I also have put my foot in my mouth at a Weight Watchers meeting. My leader once complimented me on staying at goal weight for so long and asked me what was my best strategy. I said something similar to your response, except I used the term "motivation." Then she wanted to know what my husband used as motivation. Oh, the lies that came out of my mouth!

    Congrats on the loss, Friend!

    Hugs Across the Pond and No Biscuits for You This Week!
    Ella

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    1. Oh Ella, I have just read this comment to my husband, he reckons we want to be caught out secretly! I think your Sam definitely has the hang of corner time, he is a hoh in charge!
      love Jan,xx

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  9. Jan, corner time doesn't happen in our house so not sure how I would respond if P told me to go and stand in the corner.

    I laughed reading about your Slipping World meeting. Helpful dil you have:) Congrats on the weight loss.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Hi Ronnie, you would go ,especially if you knew it was going to lead to a spanking!! I won't be laughing tomorrow if I don't lose
      love Jan,xx

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  10. Jan,
    Sorry to be so absent!
    We do not use corner time, although Jack has sent me to the bedroom to wait for him. My mind races over the reasons I am waiting. I do not like that wait. Eventually, the wait is over.
    Meredith

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    1. Hi Meredith, I quite like the wait, it builds up my anticipation :))
      Hope you are okay
      love Jan,xx

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  11. LOL Jan...First of all, same as DF, not an empty corner in this house. Second, never have done corner time and would probably fight it...but as I've said before, I'll never say never.

    OMG...you and your DIL are a pair aren't you...think she knows a lot more than you thought she did. Oh yes, I do believe your consultant might have a bit of an idea also. ;) Congrats on losing the weight...keep up the good work.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Hi Cat, Sometimes I think while I am standing there at least I am not being walloped with a bit of wood, lol.
      We are going to be good and quiet tomorrow at class.....
      love Jan,xx

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  12. Oh my Jan, I can't stop laughing at yor and your DIL outing yourself at slimming club. Maybe the other ladies need to know your secret and start expecting consequences also if they gain or eat the wrong food. LOL!
    As for corner time we haven't practiced it so far. In my fantasy world Bear would send me to the corner prior to a spanking, but I don't know if its because he hasn't thought about it or just that we do fun spankings, so he doesn't see it a necessary part to go through.
    Have a good week.
    Hugs Lindy

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    1. Hi lindy, I know I am being rude but there a few ladies at class who could do with a bit of our sort of motivation, every week they just never lose and always have a pathetic excuse. Goodness knows why they go and pay every week to do nothing!
      My husband started it once when he was really cross with me and I was shocked at the time. never occurred to me to refuse though, off I went like a good girl,lol
      love Jan,xxx

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  13. Hi Jan! I've only had corner time twice and that was at the beginning of ttwd. I did not like it at all...however I think I would gladly go back in the corner if he asked me as that would mean he was really looking deeper into ttwd and my submission/his dominance.
    And lolol to your meeting! There's been a few times I've almost stuck my foot in my mouth!

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    1. Hi Maggie, oh that is hard when these men of ours just don't seem to take it as seriously as us. I hope everything is okay with you
      love Jan,xx

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  14. Hello Jan
    Corner time here seems to come and go in phases, not so much at the moment. In the past though it was almost always prior to spanking, usually bare bottom but sometimes clothed. There were times when it went on so long that I went through the calming down stage and on to being bored and mind wondering totally, however it has another benefit in that it gives him time to calm down when he's really cross.
    I would love to have you here at our SW club, you two could really spice up talk time.

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    1. Hi Janey, It's always a good thing to let him calm down, I am never there very long, certainly not long enough to be bored.
      I don't know where you are , but I reckon dil and I are the entertainment at our group!! You will have to tell your group about our motivational techniques, lol
      love Jan,xx

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  15. Like you, I actually like corner time too, it just hasn't happened very often. At the beginning, I think DH lacked the confidence needed to ask such a thing, and now, I don't know.
    I would still like it though. :)

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    1. Hi Julia, I was beginning to think I was the odd one out! DH doesn't come across as lacking in confidence, maybe you are just not naughty enough ;)
      love Jan,xx

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    2. Aw Bless, your time will come again ;)
      xx

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  16. I haven't had corner time yet, but sometimes I actually wish for it.
    Definitely before, as I often feel that our spankings are too rushed (but that probably has to do with the window between the younglings being asleep and hubby crashing out is often quite small)...
    After a "spanking with a cause", Xander seems to need the reconnection immediately. I'd often rather have a moment and some space to myself.
    Note to self: Tell Xander, ask his opinion, wait and see.

    And good luck for the new weigh-in, and for no further slip-ups. I could easily see myself in the same situation. :)

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    1. Hi Willow, I think it must be hard to carry on ttwd with little children in the house. We didn't start until ours were grown up. life is much easier now! I have weighed in and stayed the same this week, better than a gain I suppose. Dil lost a pound so she was happy!
      Have you got a blog or are you plucking up courage to start one maybe?
      love Jan,xx

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    2. Courage is not a problem, give me the right subject, and I'll even bring my own soapbox! :o)
      So far, I have not felt any desire to start a blog of my own - on any subject. Regarding DD, I'm perfectly happy to respond to other people's blogs and write on forums for now. If that changes, you'll get the first invite. :)

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  17. Hi Jan,

    Eric is a fan of corner time because he uses it after a spanking for me to "reflect on what just happened" and likes to sit nearby and watch me squirm. I'm not one to stand still so I HATE IT. I've learned to hold tight though, because once in the beginning when I could stand still, he made me get on my hands and knees in the corner. Ugh.

    Congrats on the weight loss!

    Amy

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    1. Oh Amy,welcome here and I would have learnt to stand still pretty quickly too after that!!
      love Jan,xx

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  18. Corner time is used about a quarter of the time around here. It does help to get my mind into the right place. And sometimes, in the middle of a spanking, I am put into corner time, it gives me time to breathe and to think. Corner time is used for punishment, not for fun

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    1. Hi Blondie,Sounds like Ty has got a handle on it all. It does help get into that submissive mindset doesn't it?
      love Jan,xx

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  19. Never had it, wouldn't want it, and would fight it every inch of the way. Anything Dan wants to say he says to my face and waits for the answers then and there. I really can't see the point of it. Not being the submissive type, it would be a complete waste of time. As I once remarked, I would simply look for cobwebs, or plan the dinner menu.

    Thinking time whilst over his knee though, is a completely different kettle of fish. LOL!

    You and your slimming make me howl!

    Hugs
    Ami

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  20. Hi Ami, I haven't got time to think while over his knee, too busy squiggling and squealing!! Hope you and Dan are doing well and all is okay with you
    love Jan,xx

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  21. I have never been in the corner - I imagine it is quite dusty there. :-) As for the weigh in I would be blushing so much I would not need to say anything - it would be written all over my face. :-) LOL Congratulations on the weight loss. Hugs

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    1. Hi Terps, oh funny girl, dusty indeed!! I am really hoping to lose this week as I put a pound on last week :(
      love Jan,xx

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  22. hi Jan: I agree with what your answer would have been,if sent n time. If spanking is done for pleasure but occasionally punishment, then this feature greatly adds to my submissive side, and Cindy's dominate side Corner-time ramps up the concept of who is in charge, and who will be spanked.
    Cindy occasionally uses when she is mad about something I have done (or not done), and the spanking afterwards is more intense.
    fun to read about your weight loss semi-outing. I wonder if your daughter-in-law knows or at least guesses about this.
    Bottoms up
    Red

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